One of my family members, who shall remain unnamed, read some of my website and is totally appalled by my beliefs. She thinks I defend people who abuse children, thinks I am abusive, and thinks I go after girls much to young for me. Her first thought comes from the fact I have defended this Texas Mormon ranch from day one. I did defend them, have defended them, and will continue to defend them as long as they are treated unjustly. Does this make me someone who defends those who abuse children? Not at all. However make no mistake about it, I don’t condemn them either.
Before I get into the personal aspects of it all, let me bring up the religious factors. I believe in God, I believe in the words of God, and I believe his way is the only true just way. Not democracy, not a police officer, not a judge, and not the majority of man can change the fact that Gods way is right, not mans. Why do I say this? Am I claiming pedophiles are following the path of God? Nope, but I am not saying they aren’t either.
Thou shalt love the Lord thy God with all thy heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy mind. This is the first and great commandment. And the second is like unto it, Thou shalt love thy neighbor as thyself. On these two commandments hang all the law and the prophets.
Now Moses in the law commanded us, that such should be stoned: but what sayest thou? This they said, tempting him, that they might have to accuse him. But Jesus stooped down, and with his finger wrote on the ground, as though he heard them not. So when they continued asking him, he lifted up himself, and said unto them, He that is without sin among you, let him first cast a stone at her.
These two passage quotes sum up everything when it comes to my defending another person. First and foremost, all laws of the bible were written to stabilize the first two commandments. Yes laws existed to help keep sinners at bay. This was common practice at one point. It was done to help people remember to love your neighbors as yourself. However at some point, these laws became corrupt. Yes many things are sins. Perhaps even sex with children. However so is murder. Putting such people to death is just as wrong.
Instead we should treat our neighbors as ourselves. What if you were the one who was a pedophile? Would you like to be condemned? Would you like to be murdered? Would you like to be jailed for the rest of existence? Perhaps you would, but I can tell you I wouldn’t. Rather I’d rather someone get me professional help. Get me counseling, therapy, try to actually help me. If you can’t, okay then protect society, but don’t do so before you’ve tried to actually help me.
Now on that same belief system, I would also like to be guilty until proven innocent. That means proven in a court of law. If 50 people see a crime committed, and take the law into their own hands, they are just as guilty as the law breaker. This is why I defend the rights of criminals and those who seem to be guilty. This is why I say “prove to me that the crime was committed BEFORE acting on it”. This was what wasn’t done with the polygamous sect. No one proved there was abuse BEFORE going in and invading these peoples lives. You can’t go in, find abuse, and then try to say “see we were justified” because what happens the first time you go in and don’t find abuse? Then you have violated the rights of a innocent person.
Treat others as you want to be treated yourself, its very simple. This means I will defend every criminal regardless of the crime as long as there rights are violated. To not do so makes us, our legal system, and our justice system all criminals and just as guilty as the one being convicted.
So please don’t think I condone child abuse or abuse of any kind, because I really don’t at all. Just remember I also don’t condone the abuse of power to catch and convict these criminals. So now you know my legal, moral, and religious standpoint on such crimes.
Now lets skip ahead to me and minors. Am I attracted to girls that are to young for me? At times I certainly am, and I make no claims otherwise. I am not prejudice towards age old or young. If I see an attractive girl and I feel the urge to hit on her I will. If she is 16 or 17 so be it. If she is 22 or 23 so be that. I look at the person, not the persons age.
Now on that same note let me also say, in my life I have only slept with one minor and she was only a minor for a couple of months from the time I met her. To say any girl is “to old for me” is totally bogus. To imply I only go after young girls, is also bogus. The mother of my kids was certainly legal from the day we started our relationship until 4 years later when we ended it. The same was true of my relationship before her. Just because a younger girl has also interested me, doesn’t by any means mean I am only interested in the “young ones”.
But 16 is illegal and morally wrong, correct? Bullshit. Yes its illegal by most US state laws sadly, but by no means is it immoral. The whole idea of picking an age is a maturity thing. We want to make sure that children are not being taken advantage of by adults. Let me ask you, why is it a 16 year old considers a 13 or 14 year old a “child” and doesn’t want them around? Only a 2 to 3 year age difference? But 18 and 19 year olds have no problem hanging out with 15 or 16 year olds? Because on a maturity level, 16 to 21 year olds are in the same realm, but not 13 and 14 year olds. So why can I have sex with an 18 year old who is at basically the same maturity level as a 16 year old, but not the 16 year old? US laws are screwed.
A good friend of mine actually went and sought out a psychiatrist because he was attracted to 16 and 17 year old girls and he was in his mid 30’s. You know what the psychiatrist said in return? Its perfectly normal for girls of that age to arouse a man sexually. They are putting off a lot of hormones. Its just not appropriate to act upon those urges. Thats whats illegal and wrong about it. Why is it wrong to act upon our natural urges? Because laws tell us so? Because society says so? It doesn’t make sense!
Now what of abuse? Do I condone it? Of course not! However I am also keenly aware what appears as abuse to an outsider is not always abuse inside a relationship. This is more true in M/s and D/s lifestyles then anywhere else! Pain, punishments, domination, and submission both sexual and on a more 24/7 relationship level is not about so long as all parties involved agree to it.
Its abuse to take a woman and whip her with a horse flogger. However its not abuse if that person begged you over and over to whip them. However the person walking down the road who looks in a random window to see a woman getting whipped doesn’t know that. He just sees some guy who beats women! Now take the same situation and replace the whip with a good old fashioned spanking. What if you saw some woman being slapped by her boyfriend? You think about as abuse and consider the guy a worthless asshole, however she may be loving it and begging for more seeing this man as the most gentle and kind man alive.
Abuse and violence can often times be exactly as it seems - as abuse and violence. However there is that chance, its just another persons way of life that you misunderstand. So if that family members reads this posting, perhaps they will understand now that things are not always as they seem, that life is not black and white, and that many of us live in that grey area.
